Conflict Resolution Consultant
This is for big boys and girls.
We all experience conflict. And most of us have no idea what to do when it happens. We were not taught how to handle conflict, or rather, we were taught many ways to handle conflict POORLY.
We yell, we defend, we accuse, we defend some more, we retreat, we get big, we get small, we hide, we lie, we get physical, we backstab… the list goes on. Fill in your blank.
I have good news: Conflict doesn’t have to be bad, and, Conflict doesn’t have to cause harm.
But how?
There are 3 steps in my approach to healthy conflict resolution.
Safety. All parties must feel safe.
Invitation. You must invite the other party into your experience.
Tell the truth. Have courage to tell the truth about what you feel. Your hurt, your fear, and your shame. All the feels.
If all participants feel safe, are willing to invite others into the story they are writing, and tell the truth about what they are feeling, this can lead to participants being heard and known. And when we are heard and known, we are willing to trust. When we trust, we don’t fear. Sound familiar? “Don’t be afraid…” “Do not fear…”
Trust. Trust. Trust.